Never Call Your Ex After The Breakup! Devestating If You Do
So your ex broke up with you. I know you are going through a hard time right now. I understand the way you feel. You feel that nothing in your life will ever be the same again until you win them back.
Most people commit this one mistake after the breakup. This single mistake wrecks all chances of reconciliation. If you commit this mistake, you are less likely to get your ex back.
So What Is The One Mistake I Must Not Commit If I Want My Ex Back?
You must not contact your ex. No calls, IM's or text messages. Right now, your emotions are out of control. These emotions will make you do things that will wreck your chances of getting your ex back.
How Will I Lose My Ex By Contacting To Them?
If you call your ex when your emotions are out of control, you are likely to act desperate. Your ex is going through a hard time handling their own emotions.
Your ex only decided to part ways because things didn’t go right like the way it used to. They did this so that you can get back on your form and make things work.
When you don’t contact your ex, it gives them the time to think about the relationship. If you pester them with phone calls, your ex will feel overwhelmed. So they will shut you down rudely.
When you are hurt by your ex, you are likely to hurt them back. I have seen this happen to many couples. That's why I recommend that you do not call your ex at all.
When Exactly Should I Contact My Ex?
Wait for your ex to call. It will take a week or two for your ex to call. Your ex will definitely call you back. If they don't, you can call them. But remember, only call when you are sure that your emotions are in control.
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April 15th, 2010 - 17:56
M anna..i had been thru a break up…it happened 4 months ago..i ws havin a 5 yrs of relation…my bf asked me for space.cz things were gettin really iritating for him.n he wsnt in a situation 2 tackle evrythin..so he needed sm tym 2 calm down n ws givin some tym 2 r relation…they wer iritatin for me too..bt i nver kept “space” as d option 2 get rid of all dat…it ws really hard for me 2 accept d fact dat by Bf needs sm space frm me…bt sm how I managed 2 undrstnd dat..bt at d same tym he said dat v are frens..i ws so damn confused den i asked him to stick to d word “space”..bt wt do u mean by we being frens??..he said dat v vil b frens for a certain period of tym.i asked for how mch tym do u need space..he woys use 2 say “i dont know”..how do I know hw mch space I require..bt he said dat he will call me on his own.i really felt he ws genuine…dose wer actually d last days w wer communicating(4 months ago) bt in a very bad way cz he got so pissed of frm dis relation n moreover he wsnt able 2 clear his graduation frm d past 2 yrs..like his degree shud hav been completed in 4 yrs..bt nw its bin 6 yrs hesnt able 2 clear his exam..n dis has made him so negative in lyf..n he hs lost all his confidence upon himself…n his parents oso dnt give him d moral support he always luks 4..dey owys use 2 curse him…bt at d same tym..he wsnt makin ne possible efforts on his own 2 get his lyf on a straight track..he had dat 1 thot in his mind dat no company will provide him wid a job unless he has his degree..so he ws jst focusin on clearin his degree 1st n den searchin 4 a job…i ws d 1 who use to tell him 2 use internet for sm studyin purposes 4 his interviews rather dan jst 4 chattin n downlaoding stuff..bt he never studied..i use 2 boost up his confidence dat evrythin wil b fine..dont worry..m always wid u..i ws tellin him 2 hav patience dat hel b gettin d job an all…I use 2 tel him 2 join some Gym..cz doin sum physical activity wil surely boost his confidence..den he use 2 say..”okie fine il go”..he use keep pendin thins evrytym…..i tol him 2 try givin some interviews in companies..2 jst c wt a company demands..jst 4 d sake of an experience..bt he never did..he ws jst focusin dat 1st his degree shud get clear n den hel c wt to do…dis entire scenario ws goin on for 2 yrs…he totally became frstated…bt i ws till dere wid him…supporting him….
bt….
now luk evry relation goes thru bad tyms n gud tyms..n u shud b able 2 face d bad tyms…in d last 1 month i observed lil changes..he ws getin v mch upset from r argues due to tiny tiny lil isues…i felt dats genuine cz he ws already iritated frm his lyf..den his family,being unemployed,no degree . he use 2 ignore all r argues..all are serious conversations coz dey wer destroyin his mental peace…in dose days 1 of his cousins came 2 stay wid him for few days…my bf use 2 stay alone…he ws a paying guest n i truly belev dat a person becums very frstated if he stays alone doin nthn in his lyf…n he is a man afterall…it use 2 hurt his ego i feel.n dat tym i ws d only person who ws givin him moral support n all…I use 2 meet him after evry 2 3 days so dat he doesn’t feel more frstated of bein alone n sitin idle in his room….in dose days even I ws sufferin frm a mental pressure…cz my mother is a heart patient n her sugery ws to b decided…bt she ws getin scared if smthin happens 2 her..even I ws scared..after all shes my mother..n he knew abt dis news…he ws dere 2 support me owys..bt I dnt kw in d last month…he ws showin less concern abt evrythin..mat b he ws tired of evrythin….i really dnt kw..
I am persuing post grad…n he use 2 feel offended dat hes not even a graduate….i use 2 feel bad..bt i ws still dere 4 him..i never left him..even I ws in stress dose days..even he use 2 commit mistakes in r fights…I wsnt d only 1 2 commit dem..i ws observin dat my BF is becoming so negative is his lyf..wt wud happen in future.bt I still stood by his syd…bt aftrall m a human being..hes negativity ws effecting me..bt I kept being patient n ws wid him…cz i knew very well….dats its only my responsility dat if i love him..den i shud b wid him in dis worse situation of his…
bt wen his cousin came i observed dat hes kinda ignorin me…ws nt meetin me..he use 2 meet me if i use 2 insist..he ws really happy wid his cousin..he use 2 cal me in between 2 cover d gap which he ws oso feelin..bt he said dat hes nt able 2 meet me..cz hes busy..so dats y hes callin me 2 jst make an effort 2 cover d gap….i use 2 feel nice..bt i use 2 miss him 2 d extent of cryin evryday…n wntd 2 c him badly.i use 2 insist him again n again dat plz y cnt u meet me..he became so addicted 2 me..n he n my mum r d closest 2 me.n he knew dat..i needed him v badly..dose wer d worst days of my lyf…cz my mothers surgery shook me..n I baldy needed him..n he wsnt dere..bt slowly slowly he ws getin piised off from my tears..he use 2 say dats hes tired of dis relation..n wana have dat “single feel”..it shooked me..i cried in frnt of him..he again got pissed off…in d end he got literally fucked up from d talks dat wer regarding to r relation….he started ignorin my calls..n ws happy wid his cousin n his facebook frens….he started chattin frequently 2 divert his attention frm me..he ws doin dose little thins frm whr he gets calmness n happiness….he ws runnin for his happiness…..
he use 2 say dat he ws ordy getin fucked frm all syds in his lyf n nw dis relation ws oso stressin him a lot..so he wntd sm peace in his lyf..he said he didnt wnt 2 break up..bt jst wants sm space…bt it ws only me he was nt tokin 2..he ws tokin 2 his FB frens evryday….so d prob ws me actaully…I really dnt understand y had he sidelined me..initailly he use 2 say dat he wnts space n he will b tokin 2 me when hel start earnin….i said Okie dats fine…he said hel cal me 2 wish me on X-mas n new yeas,,bt he didnt..i cald him on X-mas..i asked him “y cudnt u cal?’…he said if v have decided not 2 tok 2 each odr..den y wishin even on X-mas…i aksed him r v goin 2 b as frens forever..he said .”I dnt know”
den i started commitin some mistakes wen he asked for d space…he tol me not 2 cal him unless he calls me on his own..bt i use 2 cal him after evry 5 or 10 days..bt dere wer some solid reasons dat wer makin me cal…he never listened 2 y i ws callin..as soon as he use 2 pick up my cal..he use 2 say dat hes busy n cnt tok…i wsnt able 2 digest d entire thin..his voice ws like an oxygen for me at dat point of tym..i called him again n again..use 2 text him..nt evryday..bt did a long 1 on new year…he didnt wished me..3 4 times v had really bad fights on phone regardin dis whole “space thin”..bt he use 2 say dat if i giv him space dat he wants den surely evrythin wil b fine..bt at d same time he told my mother that if she finds a suitable guy 4 me..she shud convince me 2 marry dat guy..i mean wt ws dat??…i ws goin so mad from his introvert replies….how cn my Bf say dis ??….initally he said dat v r frens..i digested dat sm how..n nw he convinced my mother 2 find a guy 4 me?? wtf ws dat?
now wt do u think arn’t dese d reasons dat shud hv made me call him again n again.i wntd 2 giv him his space..bt I cudnt hadle his twisted replies…i ws completely losing trst in him..wnevr he use 2 say sch thins..i ws still understndin him.cz I didn’t wnt 2 loose him..though I ws highly insecured.bt how cn i undrstnd dis thin about finding a guy 4 me?..in between he oso use 2 say..dat we will c wt happens in d future..n he will decide on his own whether he wnts 2 cum back 2 dis relation or nt..so he made me realize dat d decision wil b entirely his ..i ws so helpless n he ws treatin me like a show piece..everytym i use 2 cal him n cry n pleed..he use 2 get pissed off….one day i ws getin some thots of commitin suicide..i called him immediatetly n tol dis 2 him…he said “he cant do anythin nw ” den he said dont wory i have jst asked for some time n den evrythin wil b fine…
after dat day i never called him…bt it turned out all ugly n nasty…dis happend for almost 2 months aftr when he asked for d space thing…after dese 2 months i never called…
i nevr realized dat by doin dese this m nt helpin my self bt givin him more reasons of not cumin back….bt i ws hepless at dat time…
aftr two months i again called….n again msgd..n asked why he left me..he replied n said dat he asked 4 some space..bt i never gave..i tol him 2 luk at d reasons dat made me cal him again n again..nw its been 4 months n hes really iritated of me n messaged me “its all over”..i mean he does nt even wants 2 meet me..i m askin him from d past 3 months dat i wana c him 4 d last time..i tol him dat v shud meet 4 1 last time if v respect our gud times spent together…hes again n again makin excuses so dat he doesnt c me..he doesnt want to meet me….den ystrday v hd a really big fight..i bursted upon him n warned him dat il spoil u if u dnt meet me….he said dat he wil meet wenver he will feel like meetin me..i mean hes not even respectin me n our gud times…dat atleast for once..i shud confront my Ex gf..if shes beggin so mch 4 1 last meetin..bes hes jst ignorin n ignorin..n moreover hes constantly lying from d past 3 months dat hes nt in d city…bt i came 2 know from some 1 dat he in d city..hes jst ignorin me n does nt want 2 meet me….i dont know y??????????..i mean if hes really ended up evrythn den y cnt he meet n dat too 4 d last time..den hel b free….
nw he is ready 2 meet me nw cz i ws beggin him ‘N’ no of times..bt he didnt had dis mch courtesy dat he shud b meetin me on his won…
so nw in few days well will b meetin…..i wana have all d answers…now hes telin me dat i never gave him space dats y he decided 2 brake off…bt he doesnt want 2 luk at d misunderstndins..lack of communication….he doesnt want 2 understnd nethn nw..he says dat hes over wid it nw..n wana forget evrythin…he says dat he loves me..bt wants 2 b alone…jst for calmness….
now please can u tel me..how genuine do u feel he really can be…M I d 1 who made d situation even more worse by callin him again n again n not keepin patience until he calls me on his own…
d worst part is dat hes endin up evrythin by textin me..he cnt even meet me…n he says dat he did dis coz he wantd some peace in his life..n n hes happy widout me…bt he loves me…bt wana b alone…i tried 2 make him understnd dat please tok 2 me once..he said “leave me alone”…at dis point of time hes greedy for his freedon n happiness…bt smtyms I feel is dere any girl?? I dnt kw confused
bt nw dat he has agreed upon meetin…..wt shud i say 2 him?? how shud i react
i know i had made blunders by not givin him his twisted answers lost all my trst for him….bt i really love him n want him back…..is dere still anythin dat i can do??/
please help……..
its beein 4 months nw..m kinda loosing hopes…bt can u giv some advices….
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